Self-Esteem.  Self-Care.  To Thine Own Self Be True.  Self-Knowledge.  Self-Reflection.  Self-Image.  Self-Awareness.  Self-Help.  Self-Worth.

There are many phrases and expressions that use the word Self.  I hear and use these expressions frequently.  However, I never thought about the meaning of Self when I was a victim of domestic violence.  I believe victims and survivors must spend a significant amount of time reflecting on self. You do not have to worry about becoming narcissistic, because it is not in your nature.  You can self-assess, you have empathy, and you want to make positive changes.  None of these things would a narcissist want or be able to do.

Your self is you as a human being.  It is when you look out into the world, and then look back into you. Self is your consciousness and awareness of being uniquely you.  It contributes to your thoughts, your actions, your qualities, your nature, and your mind.  It is your presence, physically and spiritually, on this earth.

There is no one else like you.  You are unique.  There is nothing wrong with you.  You – your self has value.  Discover you.  I continue to work on finding me by writing in my journal.  I find journaling very relaxing and insightful.  You can learn a lot about you by wring down your thoughts.

Discover something about you by answering in writing the following questions:

  1. Who am I?   (Do not answer by using your roles in life.  For example, I am a mother, spouse, partner, worker, etc.)
  2. Name three things you spend a lot of time thinking about in your head.
  3. Name three things you spend a lot of time thinking about in your heart.
  4. Are the three things different? Why?
  5. What makes you smile?
  6. What do you love about being you?